Your so vain, I bet you think this song is about you.

I've always thought it would be the ultimate accolade to a relationship to have a song, or a piece of poetry written for you, about you.....

From the age of 14, when I lay on my bed day dreaming of my favorite singer, my heart aching, hoping that one day someone would write a song for me. I've felt the same, just call me a slushy ole romantic.

With hindsight would I really want it though.

There is a flip side to this.

Scenario...

Man of your dreams, pens a song about you and it's becomes one of the biggest selling records of all time, it spans decades...generations of music lovers hear it. Let's say 'When a man loves a woman' by Percy Sledge. Someone must have inspired him to write that song, he must have felt 'it' to have it in his head.

Years later ex man of your dreams is in a new relationship, he doesn't write songs anymore. If you were the new love of the ex man wouldn't you think ggggrrrrr I despise that woman for making MY man feel that way. It must be gutting to think that... to hear how your lover felt about another woman.

Most of us don't have to face that problem in their lives, although a woman I know doesn't have the song to remind her of an ex love, she found a photo. After dating the man of her dreams for 12 months they moved in together. One sunny Sunday morning while putting away laundry she found 'the photo' nestling in his underwear drawer, still encased in it's silver photo frame some 10 years after it was taken. The photo was of her man, with his arms wrapped around the body of a beautiful woman.

When questioned, the man shrugged and said, "It's a photo of me and Laura on our honeymoon" he took it from my friend and put it back in the underwear drawer.

Since that sunny day a dark cloud has descended on their relationship. He says, he likes the photo and it's a memory that he's entitled to have. She says "IF you love me, you would throw it away" No ones winning, they're are both at breaking point.

He clearly loves her, so why can't she forget the photo and carry on with their lives together?

If he had written a song about Laura (Tell Laura I love her...lol) then that song would be available for all to hear for ever more. My friend wouldn't be able to rip it up and put it in the dustbin. She would have to accept that he once loved Laura and that it was in the past. If he had a child with Laura, there would be a walking, talking, breathing beacon of the fact that he once loved Laura. So why can't she get over it and move on from a photo?

How would my friend cope if she knew her man had penned 'Sex on Fire' about another love..... I think I would just prefer to lay on my bed and day dream that Caleb Followill had penned that for me.

Sweet daydreams everyone.